Surviving a Breakup – From a Man’s Point of View
I thought of writing something “out of the box”. The last couple of my blog posts, I wrote about my experience on relationship breakups. Some were good while some were down right nasty. Nonetheless, it made me wiser.
I was thinking, how would my relationship experience be useful for a woman? How would a girl or woman get over an ex boyfriend? What is the best path to surviving a break up?
That was an intriguing thought and I decided to write this blog post from the point of view of a woman.
Seeing Things From Women’s Eye
It is not fun to break up with a beloved partner or boyfriend, but it does happen at some point. The question is where do you go from there? That is a serious question many wish for a clear answer. I was one of them.
Dealing with a breakup can be quite difficult to endure. When you breakup with your boyfriend, a great deal of sadness and stress can come over you.
Breakups can be truly painful particularly when you do not really want to severe the relationship. While most people will tell you to cheer up and move on, they are not very in depth in their assessment.
This is not because they are being curt or dismissive. They simply may not know the fine points of getting over your ex boyfriend.
Every couples have different story and history. On the surface it may look the same, but trust me it is not.
While it is not easy to get over an ex-boyfriend, it is possible if you understand a few basic and helpful tips for achieving this goal.
Getting Over An Ex Boyfriend
The first and most important step in getting over your ex boyfriend is to take the steps necessary to make a firm commitment to actually get over the ex.
That means you must seriously wish to get over him and not look to reunite or pine over the person.
If you do not make a clear and definitive decision to completely get over an ex, thoughts about your ex will linger in your mind. This will weigh down on your psyche and lead to repetitive thoughts due to anxiety.
Don’t let him stay in your mind “rent free”!
If this occurs, you certainly will not be able to get over your ex partner since you will be dealing with mental images of the ex perpetually. So, make up a definitive decision to get over an ex and stick to it.
Get Rid Of His Stuff!
It also would be beneficial to remove any reminders and mementos of your ex from anywhere you can see them. Really, it would be difficult to forget an ex if you still look at photos or gifts associated with your ex.
Now, this does not mean you need to throw them away or dispose of them. But, it would not hurt to put them in a box and into the closet.
Out of sight, out of your thought.
This way, their presence will not trigger any unwanted memories. It a simple thing to do, but some women are not ready to do it. If you want to get over your ex boyfriend fast, you have to do this.
No More What Ifs
Lamenting over an ex is a sure way to never get over him. If you spend a lot of time brooding over “what could have been” you are not enjoying the actual moment. This is what leads to a lot of misery and disappointment. This is why it is best to put on a smile and engage in things that will make you active.
Hanging out with friends, taking part in your favorite activities, going to the movies, or doing pretty much anything that gets your mind off your ex in a positive manner will definitely prove helpful.
We Are All The Same
I believe men and women are pretty much the same when we are in a relationship.
Breakups hurt. It takes a lot of effort to survive a break up, especially a long term relationship.
Dealing with a breakup is never an easy thing to deal with. When it does happen, it is necessary to have the proper attitude and plan for dealing with the situation. Thankfully, it can be dealt with and you can move on with your life in a healthy manner.
Now that I’ve put myself in a woman’s shoe (how in the world can a woman walk in those stilettos?), getting over an ex boyfriend is very similar to how a man gets over a woman.
Surviving a Breaking Up Help
Are you looking for ways dealing with a break up? If you are, check out The Magic of Making Up e-book by T.W. Jackson.
The information in the e-book has help a lot of couple at the brink of breaking up…mine included. For more information, read The Magic of Making review on this blog.
