How To Stop a Breakup – Write an Apology Letter
Stop Relationship Break Up With An Apology Letter
In the famous words of Elton John “Sorry seems to be the hardest word”. Feelings and emotions run high whenever a relationship flounders.
Someone is bound to get badly hurt; but when you are hurting badly and you want to try and find a way of undoing the wrong you have done, it’s not easy to find either the right way, or the right words.
Many couples after a heated argument wander how to stop a break up. One way of doing so is by writing an apology letter.
I wouldn’t normally suggest just writing any letter; it’s too impersonal, and what you’re trying to put across is very personal indeed.
However, if you cannot find the words, or you are just too scared of making things even worse (if that’s possible), you may have few options left.
Your best option is to sit down and start writing an apology letter to your partner.
Apology Letter Pros and Cons
There are pros and cons to putting what you want to say in a letter. On the plus side (the pro), if your ex partner will read the letter, then you will be able to put your feelings and your regrets across without interruption, argument or contradiction.
On the against side, (the con), your partner may feeling that you are “copping out”, just asking the easy way out.
My best advice in such a situation would be to personally hand the “apology” letter across saying how sorry you are and hoping that she will read your letter explaining to her that it is written in very carefully considered words explaining how bad you feel and why what happened, happened.
Baring It All In The Message
To stop the relationship break up, the letter itself must first of all be 110% genuine.
Whatever it was that you did wrong, you must in the first instance, know in your heart of hearts that you will never, ever, do it again.
If you do not feel genuine remorse, and if you are not 100% certain that you want to make amends, and there will never be a repeat, don’t bother to write to her apologizing. Just walk away.
But if you are determined to go ahead with your letter, you will have to be prepared to bare your soul.
Give It Some Time
Healing a wound takes time. This is something that you must realize and you must be prepared to let nature run its course. The best you can hope for with your letter is that it will buy you this much needed time.
Whatever wrong you did you must explain why you did it. Saying that you’re sorry simply isn’t good enough, it won’t be believed unless it can be understood, and no matter how bad your motivation was for doing what you did, your partner must have all of the facts to begin to understand.
That really is the crux of the whole matter.
If an understanding can be triggered, even if it will take time for the hurt to diminish, you are on the road to recovering what you had.
It is important though to try and hand the apology letter across personally. This will show that you are not trying to take the easy way out.
It should score in your favor. If you have to deliver the letter remotely, so be it, but it will likely diminish your chances of success.
The final advice is that you must also let your partner know how very much he / she means to you and that you cannot live without them. Be honest, be sincere and put your trust in your feelings for each other to win through.
Some Helping Hand
Sometimes in a relationship, we will do something or said something wrong without realizing it. When you do realized it, it’s too late because your partner had just slammed the door and walked out on you.
Honestly, I have never had that happened to me before, but she did got out of the car and walked away without saying a word.
All of us need a helping hand in a relationship especially when we’ve blundered. Some advice from people who have went through what you are going through will be very valuable.
I learned how to craft an apology letter from T.W. Jackson. He is the author of the relationship e-book, The Magic Of Making Up.
To know more about the book, read the Magic Of Making Up review that I did few weeks ago.